The thin line

If you are single, chances are you have at least one friend of the opposite sex that you flirt with on the regular. You probably have one of the same sex too, lesbihonest here. And if you’re like me, you probably have more than just one of these friends; I rarely go more than a week or two without talking to someone who is trying to hook up with me. And as long as you are not hooking up with all these people, than it’s ok. The same goes for making out with guys in bars. This is my justification; don’t judge the jaded single girl for having fun.

When it comes to your flirting buddies –the ones who you aren’t really good friends with but have fun talking to anyway –there are no real consequences if you were to actually hook up with them. You won’t lose a friend and chances are they don’t run in your social circle so you won’t create any awkward situations. The only problem would come if one of you fell for the other when it was clearly just a casual, no strings attached kind of shenanigan. And when that happens, if it helps, you can totally hate the guy for not realizing you’re a woman and will obviously change your mind and be super sad when it turns out to be exactly what you wanted –something casual. Not speaking from experience or anything… But when it comes to your actual friends that you flirt with, that’s where things can get messy pretty quick. There is a very thin line between flirtatious friends and friends with a sexual attraction. And on the other side of that is friends with feelings, but that’s a bigger line and another day. I personally have never crossed that thin line with a friend –I’ve crossed the bigger one but, again, another day –but I know some people who have. And it’s never a good idea. If you’re drunk, avoid these friends at all costs. Do what I do; kiss strangers, not your friends.

What I’ve learned is that it’s always better to keep around a few good flirting buddies to pass the time between relationships. I get bored, don’t judge ok? I ditch them when shit gets serious with a guy. And if you are going to flirt with your friends, be very cautious of the line. Because once you cross it, there’s really no going back. The friendship can really only be salvaged when one of you actually gets a relationship, and then you can back to the innocent flirting of yesterday. I’m going to get some hate for this, but no, I don’t think there is a problem with innocent flirting, single or taken. As long as nothing physical or emotional comes from the flirting, then there’s nothing wrong with it. I flirt with dozens of people every day; it’s part of my job –customer service, nothing weird. It makes people feel good and whether you like it or not, it happens. Your boyfriend flirts with girls, your girlfriend flirts with guys, and –brace yourselves –they both check other guys and girls out. Oh my God, the indecency! Get over it, it happens. Just be aware of the thin line; flirt with caution, friends.