Do you believe in soul mates?

When it comes to finding the one, many people take up the belief in soul mates. And I can understand that; it’s nice to think there is one perfect person for you out there and if you just give it time, fate will you bring you together. I, however, do not choose to believe in soul mates or even fate, for that matter. For one, I’m far too much of a realist to believe that everything will always work out perfectly – because it won’t – and I also don’t feel like waiting around for fate to fuck up my life – or make it better, for you optimists. I don’t like chalking everything up to fate and the universe and am an avid believer that life can take you in millions of different directions, and that you choose which direction. When it comes to life and love, I’m not so much of an everything happens for a reason person but more of a shit happens person.

Of course, there are always those few exceptions like my best friend whose life really does follow the everything happens for a reason rule, but for the rest of us like me, I like thinking that my life is in my own hands. And that’s why I don’t believe in fate or soul mates, and I bet I can prove that it’s a much for comforting and romantic belief than you might think.

I have always believed that people come together based on circumstance. People of less means tend to be friends and lovers with other people in the same situation. The same is usually said for those with all the means and luxuries of the world – they tend to hand around with other rich and luxurious people. I’m not saying they don’t ever cross paths; but when they do I don’t believe that’s fate. I think that whatever direction you choose to go, you will end up somewhere you belong. And that’s why I don’t like the idea of soul mates, that there’s only one perfect person out there for you and x, y, and z needs to happen or you’ll miss them and your life will be ruined. I believe there are hundreds of perfect people for everyone, and whatever path you choose, you will run into one of them. And I find that comforting; that no matter what direction you go, you will find people who are perfect for you. Unless that direction is murder; because the perfect people you will find are murder victims and I don’t think anyone should find comfort in that path.

So as long as your direction is legal and morally right, I think you should be happy that you are bound to meet the love of your life. Takes the pressure off, doesn’t it?